In simple terms, consent is two or more people agreeing to do the same thing, at the same time, in the same way with each other.
Consent is about creating the most enjoyable experience for each person within a sexual encounter. For some, the conversation may seem daunting or awkward. Many of us have not been encouraged to feel comfortable exploring or talking about what we want or need when it comes to sex. Consent is not just a box to check—it is a critical component for enjoyable experiences for everyone.
Let’s begin to shift our ideas about consent and see this conversation as something not only necessary but valuable.
FRIES
A helpful mnemonic to remember the various components of consent is:
- F - Freely given: Consent is a decision people have the right to make free of coercion, pressure, intimidation, or manipulation.
- R - Reversible: You can change your mind at any point before or during a sexual experience if you no longer want to participate. Just because you have consented to an activity once does not mean your consent should be assumed.
- I - Informed: All participants must be able to make an informed decision. Alcohol, drugs, and other factors can impact someone’s ability to make informed decisions. Pay attention to your partner and whether they seem alert and coherent, even after things have started!
- E - Enthusiastic: Pay attention to verbal and non-verbal cues. Make sure everyone involved is not just okay with what is happening but actively enjoying it.
- S - Specific: All necessary information should be shared beforehand so participants fully understand what they are about to engage in.
Engaging in any type of sexual activity without the explicit consent of your partner is a violation of the Georgia Tech Sexual Misconduct Policy. This policy addresses nonconsensual sexual contact, sexual harassment, stalking, dating violence, and retaliation. View this policy to learn more about consent and how it is defined by Georgia Tech.
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How is consent like ordering pizza?
When we first learn about sex and relationships it is often portrayed in ways that are competitive, goal oriented, and influenced by others and society. Comparatively we want Georgia Tech students to view consent as if it was ordering pizza with someone for the first time. It should be collaborative, cooperative, satisfying, and internally decided.
Want to Learn More?
Engaging with this information through events, workshops, or presentations can provide deeper insights into what it means to have meaningful conversations. Our team is here to help you explore these topics further.
Some of our events surrounding consent include:
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My Costume is Not My Consent
Every October, we hold My Costume is Not My Consent to explore consent, bystander intervention, alcohol harm reduction, and the harmful messages surrounding the Halloween holiday.
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Sexual Assault Awareness Month
During this awareness month the Wellness Empowerment Center supports several events such as Teal Ribbon Day and Teal Ribbon Day.
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