Intimate Partner Violence, also called Dating or Domestic Violence or Relationship Abuse is a pattern of abusive and coercive behaviors used to maintain power and control over a former or current intimate partner. Abuse can be emotional, financial, sexual or physical and can include threats, isolation, and intimidation. Intimate Partner Violence does not always involve physical violence but the abuse often escalates over time. 

It is not your fault

If your partner is abusing you, you may feel confused, afraid, angry and/or trapped. All of these emotions are normal responses to abuse. You may also blame yourself for what is happening. You are never responsible for your partner’s abusive actions. Intimate Partner Violence is always a decision that someone makes to harm their partner. Intimate Partner Violence is not caused by alcohol or drugs, stress, anger management, or provocation. It is the perpetrator’s choice to be abusive.


Have you experienced sexual violence or have questions related to victim-survivor support, referrals, accommodations, and reporting options and need to speak to a VOICE Advocate?

For confidential support contact us at 404.894.9000 24 hours per day.

Appointments are available for individuals affiliated with Georgia Tech.  

Warning Signs

The following questions ask you about your relationship. If you are not currently in a relationship, these are signs or “red flags” to assist people in identifying an abusive or unhealthy relationship.

  • Do you feel nervous around your partner?
  • Do you have to be careful to control your behavior to avoid your partner’s anger?
  • Does your partner pressure you about sexual activity?
  • Are you scared of disagreeing with your partner?
  • Does your partner criticize or humiliate you in front of other people or belittle your accomplishments?
  • Is your partner always checking up on you or questioning you about what you do without your partner?
  • Does your partner monitor or control where you go or who you spend time with?
  • Does your partner repeatedly and wrongfully accuse you of seeing or flirting with other people?
  • Does your partner tell you that if you changed, they wouldn’t treat you like this?
  • Does your partner blame you or other for their feelings and use these feelings to manipulate you? For example saying, "You make me mad" or "You're hurting me by not doing what I want you to do."
  • Does your partner’s jealousy stop you from seeing friends or family?
  • Has your partner abused or killed your pets?
  • Does your partner expect you to meet all of their emotional needs and to prioritize them above all of your other commitments and relationships?
  • Does your partner make you feel like you are wrong, stupid, crazy, or inadequate?
  • Has your partner ever scared you with violence or threatening behavior?
  • Does your partner throw or break objects or pound their fist on the table to intimidate you?
  • Does your partner make you feel scared by driving too fast and refusing to slow down when you ask?
  • Does your partner refuse to let you leave during an argument by restraining, pushing, or shoving you?
  • Does your partner say, “I will kill myself if you break up with me” or “I will hurt/kill you if you break up with me”?
  • Does your partner make excuses for the abusive behavior? For example: saying, “It’s because of alcohol or drugs,” or “I can’t control my temper,” or “I was just joking”?
  • Does your partner brag about bullying or harming others or animals?
  • Does your partner impose stereotypical gender roles or invalidate your gender identity?

Safety Planning

You do not deserve to be abused. Abusive behavior is always a choice that someone makes to harm. A VOICE Advocate can safety plan with you and talk with you confidentially about your relationship. 

A safety plan is a guide that helps you lower your risk of being hurt in a dangerous situation such as dating violence, domestic violence, stalking, and sexual assault. It includes information specific to you and your life that will help keep you safe. A good safety plan is ongoing and helps you to think through steps you can take to keep you as safe as possible on campus, in residence halls or apartments, and other places that you go to regularly. There are also interactive online guides for creating a safety plan that may be useful.

You can access these resources for safety planning and getting support for relationship abuse, stalking, digital abuse, and sexual exploitation.